What is a homemaker? If you search up the word online, it states simply; “a person, especially a housewife, who manages a home.” But in the bible, the definition of a homemaker means so much more than that.
Most people, especially women think immediately that homemaking means being a ‘slave’ to your husband and children. To all the Christian teen girls out there that think this way, I swear that this is so far from the truth.
You might be thinking, “How is a woman being a homemaker so important in the bible, if I have never heard my preacher talk about it before?” This was a question I asked myself when my dad told me the truth about what women should be according to the bible. But really, without me even telling you why, isn’t it obvious? If you were a preacher and tried to preach that part of the bible about homemakers to everyone in church, including the “working career women”, do you really think that they’d be happy with you? No, and most would probably leave the church (along with their husbands and children who would probably agree with them) because their beliefs conflict so much with what the bible and our God is telling them to do.
Feminists and most working women in general want to stick to their own selfish ambitions so much that they couldn’t care less if the bible said it a thousand times that they are supposed to be homemakers. Women apparently need to be so much like men, that they’d even fight, question, and redefine what God clearly says, just to get what they want, which is equality.
Now, would all women who work be this way if their preacher said this to them? No. Some women have to work and not because they want to, but because they have to support themselves and their children, and still believe that God wants them to be homemakers. Whether they’re working because their husbands have died, or their husband is injured or too sick to go to work, or their husbands left them, regardless, these are not the women that I am talking about. The women that I am talking about get a job or career out of their own wants and choices while they are married and have children.
Proverbs 31 is a big chapter in the bible that pretty much explains exactly what I’m telling you. If you think God doesn’t mean being homemakers in theses verses, then let me ask you this. What do they really mean then?
I will show you Proverbs 31, but let me first show you other verses that are more clearly stated to women being homemakers. Proverbs 31 more discusses what a homemaker is supposed to be like, in fact in one of the verses, it calls the woman ‘virtuous’. We will talk more about that after I show you these verses.
Titus 2:4-5 (KJV)
“4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
I Timothy 5:14
“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”
What else could these verses mean? I don’t know about you, but I can’t think about anything else that they could mean.
Now here is Proverbs 31, which like I said, mostly explains what homemakers are supposed to be like.
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
It’s kind of funny, how over half of this entire chapter is meant to guide women in the home, but yet women choose to just ignore it. We can change it, redefine it, and criticize it all we want, but that will never change the fact that homemaking is and will always still be there in the bible. This chapter is describing a woman who takes pride in what she does as a hard-working homemaker, He calls her a ‘virtuous’ woman for the things she does for her household. I think that we as women or girls need to appreciate more what is clearly in the bible for US specifically. God has given us so much, including a guide to how to be good at what we’re meant to be, but here most of us are; just ignoring His work for just some selfish reasons of our own.
I hope that all of you Christian teen girls out there were able to read this and learn something new about the bible that you didn’t know was there before. If you have any questions, statements, experiences of struggles of your beliefs, or just comments, please feel free to email me or comment.