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God Says Change is Always an Option

Most teenage girls (or women in general) out there think after reading posts like mine, or just after hearing about what God wants women to do in their life, that it’s too late for them. That they can’t change their ways of wanting a career, and of wanting to be equal with men in everything, because they think that just because it’s been fixed in their minds for years of their life that they want to do certain careers, that God will not forgive them for what they’ve thought about doing even if they want to change. But I’m telling you guys right now, that that is not true at all. “Our God is a forgiving God”, I think we’ve all heard that line before by many people, and that’s because it’s true. If God never forgave us for any sins that we’ve committed, then almost none of us would be going to heaven when we die. In fact, there’s a lot of verses in the bible that explains that we can change and be forgiven, here are a few that I have found so far and what they all mean:

“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” Romans 12:2 (KJV)
Definition: It is not wrong to follow our culture’s traditions and values as long as those values do not conflict with the will of God as shown in the Bible. But where our culture asks us to go against God’s will we must do things the way God says too. This takes a change of mind to follow God’s will.

 

“22 That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;
23 And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;
24 And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.” Ephesians: 4:22-24 (KJV)
Definition: Our old man is our sin nature. When we accept Christ we have been spiritually made alive and this is our new man. So now there is a war going on between our new man and our old man and we need to follow the Spirit and follow God’s will.

 

“5 For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit.
6 For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.” Romans 8:5-6 (KJV)
Definition: While we cannot lose our salvation once we have trusted in Christ as our savior that does not mean we won’t still follow our old sinful nature. If we follow our sinful nature it could cost us our life, but following God’s ways lead to life and peace especially to peaceful marriages.

 

“8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.” James 4:8 (KJV)
Definition: We need to ask God to purify our hearts from the thoughts of the old man help us not to be double minded where we are trying to follow God and our sin nature at the same time. We cannot do both, we must choose to follow one or the other.

 

“5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;” 2 Corinthians 10:5 (KJV)
Definition: It is not wrong to have an imagination or imagine many wonderful and pleasurable things. God has given us our imaginations as a gift. But it is wrong to imagine or dwell on thoughts that are against the knowledge God found in the Bible. We need to run every thought we have by the Bible and make it obedient to Christ.

 

“3 Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established.” Proverbs 16:3 (KJV)
Definition: If we commit our life to God on a daily basis, he will guide our thoughts and help us to have the right attitude toward the things that happen to us on a daily basis.

 

“23 Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts:
24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” Psalm 139:23-24 (KJV)
Definition: We should ask God on a daily basis show us if our thoughts or attitudes are sinful and not in line with his word.

 

“9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9
Definition: Sometimes it takes time after we accept Christ to realize all the wrong thinking we had about various issues including gender roles and marriage. We cannot live in the past of our wrong thinking but instead we need to realize God forgives for all past wrongs including wrong thinking and attitudes. We simply must confess to God our wrong attitudes and thoughts and purpose in our heart to follow his will for lives.

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Even if you Face Rejection, Remember That you are Never Alone

Alone. That’s how I feel.

Around most of my family & friends, gender roles are no big deal.

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I’m afraid of telling some of them that I won’t be having a career or going to college, that I want to be the homemaker that God wants me to be.

I feel as though they’d think I’m wasting my entire life because I’m not doing something that’s meaningful to them or something they think is meant for me.

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I get so afraid of the rejection I might face not only when I graduate high school, but when I become a mom and wife.

But then I remember John 15:19, and realize that I don’t have to be afraid or feel alone because I know that even though I may face rejection, Jesus Christ knows that I’m making the right decision with my life.

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I remember that he will be by my side even if no one else is, that I should put what he wants for my life as my first priority.

And even though there are other older women out there that believe the same way I do, I know that what I believe is still only for a teenage minority.

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But even so, I hope that one day soon I will be able to reach out to other girls my same age.

So that when they grow up to be homemakers and submissive wives themselves, they know like I do that Jesus will support them and be with them the whole way, unlike other people that will reject them in rage.

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Yes, in case some of you were wondering, this is supposed to be a rhyming poem. I love writing those kinds of things by the way! Even though this one could’ve been a bit better, I’m still happy with my results in it. All of what I said in this poem is true, the fear and rejection were things that I used to think about all the time to myself. But even though John 15:19 and God did help me get through it and change my perspective on that, the fear and rejection still kind of bug me, but I don’t think there’s really any teenager that believes this and doesn’t fear rejection at least a little bit.

Anyways, I know I kind of made this poem seem like people reject my idea of homemaking and being submissive all the time, but in truth, I barely bring it up to my family or friends anymore. However, when I first told them what I wanted to do, they looked confused and sounded upset. Some of them even tried teaching me otherwise, like I should have at least have a back-up plan (a degree in college)for my life if my husband doesn’t make a lot of money for me and my children, if we happen to get divorced, if he dies, the list goes on and on.  And I know they probably said that because they care about my well-being, but I also know that it was also because they were in denial that what I believed I should do is in the bible and what God wants for women.

Also, just to clear up any other misunderstandings about my family, I know that John 15:19 says, “Therefore the world hateth you” However I am not trying to say in the poem that my family and/or friends hate me, I do not believe that to be true at all. I more believe that they hate my belief but not me as a person, I know that no matter how much my beliefs conflict with theirs, my family will always care for me and love me the way they always do. However, I think the verse is more talking about the world outside of your family and friends that hates you. And when I said “alone” in the poem, I don’t mean physically alone, you know? I mean like mentally in my belief to be a homemaker and a submissive wife.

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Notes:

Some people, especially younger kids or teenagers around my age, read the bible all the time, but don’t know how to correctly define some verses in the bible by their true meaning. That’s okay though, I was definitely like that not too long ago myself, lol. But to help some of you out, I’m going to define John 15:19.

In John 15:19 (KJV), it says, “If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.

My definition: Let’s start off with the first part, “If ye were of the world”, this just simply means, “If you were like society or everyone else in the world around you that is not doing what God wants”, though in this case that is homemaking and being a submissive wife.

The next part is, “The world would love his own”, this means, “Then society or everyone else that is not doing certain things that God asks of them would accept you because you are like them.”

Then this part, “but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world”, this means, “but since you are not like everyone else that is going against what God asks, and he chooses you out of those people to do what he asks.”

Then finally, “therefore the world hateth you”, this one means, “The people around you that are not doing what God asks or just society, hates you or does not accept you because you want to do a certain thing that God asks of you to do and they choose not to.” Remember this does not have to mean family and/or friends, but in some cases it could.

Now, again I do not want there to be any misunderstandings here about me or what I wrote, so I’m going to clarify exactly what I was trying to say here. When I say “the people around you that are not doing what God asks”, I am not trying to indicate that you or I have never not done what God has asked of me or you, we are all sinners without a question, the only person who isn’t is God himself. We have all done something, that we know God would not be proud of or like whether we realize it or not. What I was trying to say here was “the people around you who are not doing a certain thing/rule that God has asked of them to do, but you are doing this particular thing/rule that you know God asks of you to do.”  In this case, that would be you, a teenage girl, wanting to be a homemaker and a submissive wife, but the rest of the world finds that offending, or they just don’t want to do that themselves, or do not want to follow that rule in the bible.

Also when I say that John 15:19 helped me get through rejection and fear of rejection, and when I say that it reminded me that Jesus is always by my side, I was meaning it kind of reminded me that I should already expect rejection and/or hate to happen to me having the beliefs that I have, and that even though I should expect that, Jesus will not reject me because he knows that I’m doing what’s right by wanting to become a homemaker and submissive wife according to the bible.

If there is anything else on here that you guys think I made a mistake on, or you think you’re misunderstanding something I wrote and want me to clarify what I meant, then please let me know in the comments section below or contact me by email. 🙂

The Bible Clearly States That Women Should be Homemakers

What is a homemaker? If you search up the word online, it states simply; “a person, especially a housewife, who manages a home.” But in the bible, the definition of a homemaker means so much more than that.

Most people, especially women think immediately that homemaking means being a ‘slave’ to your husband and children. To all the Christian teen girls out there that think this way, I swear that this is so far from the truth.

You might be thinking, “How is a woman being a homemaker so important in the bible, if I have never heard my preacher talk about it before?” This was a question I asked myself when my dad told me the truth about what women should be according to the bible. But really, without me even telling you why, isn’t it obvious? If you were a preacher and tried to preach that part of the bible about homemakers to everyone in church, including the “working career women”, do you really think that they’d be happy with you? No, and most would probably leave the church (along with their husbands and children who would probably agree with them) because their beliefs conflict so much with what the bible and our God is telling them to do.

Feminists and most working women in general want to stick to their own selfish ambitions so much that they couldn’t care less if the bible said it a thousand times that they are supposed to be homemakers. Women apparently need to be so much like men, that they’d even fight, question, and redefine what God clearly says, just to get what they want, which is equality.

Now, would all women who work be this way if their preacher said this to them? No. Some women have to work and not because they want to, but because they have to support themselves and their children, and still believe that God wants them to be homemakers. Whether they’re working because their husbands have died, or their husband is injured or too sick to go to work, or their husbands left them, regardless, these are not the women that I am talking about. The women that I am talking about get a job or career out of their own wants and choices while they are married and have children.

Proverbs 31 is a big chapter in the bible that pretty much explains exactly what I’m telling you. If you think God doesn’t mean being homemakers in theses verses, then let me ask you this. What do they really mean then?

I will show you Proverbs 31, but let me first show you other verses that are more clearly stated to women being homemakers. Proverbs 31 more discusses what a homemaker is supposed to be like, in fact in one of the verses, it calls the woman ‘virtuous’. We will talk more about that after I show you these verses.

Titus 2:4-5 (KJV)

“4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

I Timothy 5:14

“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”

What else could these verses mean? I don’t know about you, but I can’t think about anything else that they could mean.

Now here is Proverbs 31, which like I said, mostly explains what homemakers are supposed to be like.

Proverbs 31:

10 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

It’s kind of funny, how over half of this entire chapter is meant to guide women in the home, but yet women choose to just ignore it. We can change it, redefine it, and criticize it all we want, but that will never change the fact that homemaking is and will always still be there in the bible. This chapter is describing a woman who takes pride in what she does as a hard-working homemaker, He calls her a ‘virtuous’ woman for the things she does for her household.  I think that we as women or girls need to appreciate more what is clearly in the bible for US specifically. God has given us so much, including a guide to how to be good at what we’re meant to be, but here most of us are; just ignoring His work for just some selfish reasons of our own.

I hope that all of you Christian teen girls out there were able to read this and learn something new about the bible that you didn’t know was there before. If you have any questions, statements, experiences of struggles of your beliefs, or just comments, please feel free to email me or comment.

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Ladies, God Says we are not Equal to Men (Introduction to Website)

 

 

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Today, men and women are seen as equals. They have fully equal rights. The right to work, to have careers, to vote, and so much more.
But I’m here to tell you that this is, without a doubt, not what God wanted for our world at all. Most girls, even way before they are teenagers, are taught in school and in their homes pretty much the same thing about how their life should go. They are taught that they should grow up to have a career or job. That their lifestyles should not have to be any different because of gender. In fact, most girls today never even have the thought that they were ever different from men in equality until they hear about it in school or from their parents. Sadly, I was one of those girls, I started having the beliefs that I do now about what God says women are supposed to do since I was about 12. My dad explained this stuff to me at about that age, and I almost couldn’t believe it, since I had never heard about it in church, or really anywhere. I was completely planning to have a career or job. But after my dad told me this stuff, I looked it up in the bible for proof, and when I found it, it changed my whole perspective on everything. I look at our world today, and instead of it seeming pretty normal, I look at the world and am so confused about why people need to be so equal to each other gender-wise. Equality doesn’t seem so natural to me like it used to be anymore. I also have no idea why, but it seems like today women are more concerned with being equal, but don’t even ask themselves why they weren’t equal with men to begin with. I already know the reason, but it seems that they themselves don’t want to know.

I promise that in my next posts that I make, I will discuss the verses that explain to us how we women are not equal to men.

People today don’t want to completely live by the bible. Sure, maybe they try to live by the rules that they think wouldn’t bother them, like to not steal, murder, or lie, but when it comes to gender roles… most people don’t care. Or they redefine it, criticize it, or just act like it isn’t there in the bible at all. I know that many people think that gender roles are just some little thing in the bible, that it isn’t that important, that it’s just one rule, and that we should just completely ignore it. But it is much bigger than you think. The verses about gender roles are basically telling you how to live your everyday life when you’re older and have a family, and how you live your life, should at least try to reflect what the bible says. When you choose not to become a homemaker, even when you know that God wants you to, that effects not only your marriage, but your children too. Submission is an even bigger part of your life that will definitely effect your marriage if you choose not to submit to your husband. And not submitting to your husband and also not being a homemaker for your family will definitely affect your relationship with God since you are not doing what God is commanding you and other women to do.  This world that we live in is confusing, and not everything people do go with what God tells them to do. To live differently from the rest of the world, is very hard to do. We don’t want to be looked at differently, and don’t want to be treated differently. But I think that we should worry less about what other people think of us, and worry more about what our God and creator thinks of us. When we purposely choose not to follow God’s rules, we need to think about how that might make Him feel. He has done so much for us, and Jesus even died for us and the many sins that we have done. I think that we owe Him to follow this rule and more, don’t you think? Now even though I want to and will follow this rule when i am older, I’m not perfect, no one is except God, and I will always make mistakes because I am a sinner. I also know that during my days of being submissively married and having children around with me while being a homemaker, I will definitely make some mistakes along the way, and my life will not be considered easy or perfect. However, I think personally that if we see a rule in the bible that we know God wants us to follow, whether we think its easy to do or not, then we should at least try our best to do what that rule says we should do.

(This post was basically an intro to everything that I will be writing about, which is why it has no verses in it, the next few things that I post will.)

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